Tuesday, September 13, 2011

you are the best



Thank you all so much.
Your words of encouragement and your prayers
have me feeling so much better.
Friends, I felt those prayers!!
My sisters and I have attended some 
Alzheimer's support meetings.
We talked with the coordinator about
programs available.
But, Mom was not receptive to the idea at all.
Mom has really resisted getting any outside help.
Last night, my sister had a hard talk with Mom
and with the events lately...
I think she has come to realize 
more help is a necessity.
She is unable to give him 24 hour supervision. 
She is 87 and he is 92.
We want Dad to be able to stay on the farm
just as long as he possibly can.
But, we want him safe.
Hopefully, plans to get a helper
are soon to be implemented.
I am sure with an helper,
plus my sisters, and I 
we will  persevere.
Each day with my folks is a blessing. 
They have been married for over 70 years.
We hope they can stay in their earthly home 
until they are called to their real home.
I so appreciate your words 
and your prayers.
You are the best.

P..S. The painting is done.
We are just waiting on the radiator
to get back and all is done.

71. text messages
109. videos that make me laugh
248. a fresh garden salad
113. a fuzzy throw



14 comments:

  1. Have you thought of asking around for a "helper" at the local catholic high schools ? Perhaps a young person interested in nursing or medicine might welcome the volunteer hours. Most Catholic high schools require X amount of hours of community service to graduate and definitely for sacraments.

    Another spot to look into is a college age nursing student looking to make a little $$ and gain some experience with an Alz patient or just an older patient in general.

    thinking of you...
    gena

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  2. Janie, do you know about the Aid and Attendence Pension for Veterans? $1600-$1900 pension available for home care, assisted living or nursing care. Here is a link to the VA site...http://www.veteranaid.org/eligibility.php

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  3. I lost my Dad to Alz 3 years ago and now my Mom is showing signs of Alz. My Sister and I have tried to deny the obvious, but we both know the truth all to well. Alz is hard and it is long. It takes a family, working together, to deal with all the changes. It sounds as though you and your sisters are doing a great job. Take heart - it wil work out. Praying for both your Mom and Dad.

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  4. I think your middle name is persevere. Your parents are lucky to have daughters like you all.

    On a side note
    I love the fact that you were out oozing the lawn, lol!

    Meg

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  5. Janie, it is just such a learning process...and then by the time you learn it you are in another phase!...I do think Alzheimer would be harder than what we are going through. My mom is the same...she resists the help but she just can't do it all. I think it is partly denial and partly she wants her "normal" back...she is finally accepting we have a new normal and it changes every day. It was easier for us girls to each take a day...I took a couple of extra days because I don't work outside...but I knew I couldn't do it all...no one really can. Blog about it...it helps and we care...

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  6. What a wonderful thing to be married for 70 years! That is more than awesome! It must be so difficult for your Mom to realize that she needs some help...no shame in that. Blessings to you all!

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  7. Hello Janie,

    I am astonished to read that your parents are married for 70 long years. It is amazing. They are a wonderful,caring couple. You and your family are fantastic to take care of them in their old age. God will bless you all abundantly. My prayers are with your family. God will give you the strength and courage to face all difficulties that come in your way.

    Best wishes,
    Joseph

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  8. I also lost my Dad to Alzheimer's about 5 years ago. It still brings tears to my eyes, thinking about watching him fade away right before our eyes. My Mom, also would not hear of having any additonal help. There was even a program at the Manor where she could have taken him just to spend the day, but she wouldn't hear of it. I think she thought this was the "in sickness" part of her vows. She did an amazing job with Dad, but in the end it cost her her own health. She took so much of the burden on herself, that her own health declined rapidly. She was gone just a short three years after my Dad. I take solace in knowing they are together and are whole again. I pray for comfort for you and your family in the days, weeks, and months to follow. It is a very trying, emotional time. But, with God's help, you will make it through. I'm glad your Mom has agreed to some additional help. It's hard for this generation to accept help, but it will be so much better for both of them in the end.

    Praying for all of you.
    Paula

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  9. You really are a special family. So much love and kindness. You are all so lucky to have eachother. I'm sending prayers and love :-)

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  10. Janie there are many of us out there that are praying for you and your family and are with you in understanding the immense stress and heartache that Alzheimer's can cause. I think it is absolutely wonderful that those two lovebirds have stayed true to their hearts for 70 years! How inspiring and you and your sisters are doing a wonderful job with them....don't forget that! (asking for help is okay)

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  11. Been there, it stinks. Hang in there and I'll say extra prayers for all of you.
    Renee W.
    Austin, TX

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  12. Janie, I'm sorry I missed your previous post about your dad and the big A. I went through this with both my parents and it was horribly frustrating, sad, and at times funny. You are all doing the best you can (including your dad) and although these will be difficult times, you will one day look back on them with love and the good feeling that everyone pitched in and did the jobs that needed to be done. Hugs to you and your family. Ann

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